Dear Dan Flanders,

I am so embarrassed and guilt-ridden I don’t even know how to write this – but I must try. My daughter of 17, Ann, has been seeing an 18 yr old guy, Bill. (Ann’s father is long gone.) She has one more year of high school. Bill and Ann have been hanging out all summer – mostly around the pool or in her bedroom. Now school has started and Ann goes to school and Bill continues to hang out around the house and pool . So now, while Ann is at school, I watch Bill and his young, hard body run around in his tight swim shorts. One day I put my 40 yr old body in a bikini (my body is still hot) and joined Bill at the pool. Next thing we are both in the pool and he grabs my ass and slips my top down exposing my boobs. Needless to say, one thing led to another and we made love – over and over , everywhere, in the past few months of fall , winter and spring. These months have been wonderful for me – sexual satisfaction plus I’m kind of falling for the guy. School will be out soon and Ann will be home for the summer. Bill doesn’t care who knows what about what. I’m at a loss for what to do. I certainly don’t want to hurt my daughter and I hate the thought of giving up Bill. Maybe I should confess it all and talk to my priest. Please help.